Likewise, groups can form around band, drama club, even liking the same music or movies. Kids often feel supported and welcomed because of their similar interests.
For instance, a high school girl might hang out with the volleyball team one day and the yearbook staff another day. Even within a group, kids may have one or two friends that they feel closer to. People also move in and out of groups as they develop new interests, make friends or just realize that they have less in common than they used to. As time passes, some groups of friends will become closer while others drift apart.
Do not automatically assume that all groups of friends are cliques. But in a healthy friendship , this is never done intentionally. Usually invites to parties and other outside activities are dictated by space limitations. Groups of friends also tend to be supportive of one another. Additionally, what makes these friendships just a group and not a clique is the level of control within the group.
People are free to be themselves within a group of friends. There is no one dictating what they should wear or who they can hang out with. They also are welcoming when they meet others who have some of the same interests.
Remember, friends can display unkind behavior at times, but this does not mean they are bullies. It is important to recognize the difference between toxic people and fake friends and those that are just having a bad day. Sometimes a group of friends is actually a clique. Typically, kids in these groups make it clear to outsiders that not just anyone can join and be part of their group. Another determining factor is that cliques often focus on maintaining their popularity or status.
They accomplish this by making those on the outside feel like they are less important than those inside the clique.
What's more, people in cliques are notorious for using their perceived power as a way to hurt or bully others. They often exclude, ostracize and leave out others on purpose. People in cliques sometimes even hurt their own members by trying to control or "fix" them in some way. This can include giving unwanted makeovers, dictating clothing choices, telling them how to act and limiting outside friendships.
Individuality is not rewarded or encouraged within a clique. Additionally, people in cliques often believe that if they make fun of others, spread gossip or use other types of relational aggression , that they will be popular.
So, they bully to get attention, to get what they want and to punish people they are jealous of. Yet, teens create and re-create these groups every year. Here are a few of the benefits adolescents get from cliques, moving from the most personal and smallest level out to the broadest functions of cliques.
Friends Whatever the clique is based on -- popularity, sports, nerd-ness -- it provides a way for kids with similar interests to find each other and tells them whose company they'll probably enjoy. Although shared interests and spending time together aren't the only reasons two kids become friends, they are important first steps.
A Role Every clique needs a leader. It also needs an organizer, a peacemaker and someone to be the butt of the joke, among other roles. Being part of a clique allows a teen to practice one of these roles. As roles shift or the group's membership changes over time, a teen's place within the group can change too. Rosalind Wiseman's book Masterminds and Wingmen describes these roles in detail but using different terms.
An Identity Part of being an American teenager means some effort to answer the question "who am I? That clique and that identity come with a stereotype that a teen can adopt to see how well they like it.
The stereotype might fit them perfectly, or they might find that the stereotype is mostly OK, but some parts are uncomfortable. If they don't follow enough of the stereotype, then they'll be seen as a poser and may be forced out of the clique.
Whether you think conforming to a stereotype is good or bad, it is a decidedly practical way for a teen to figure out what he or she likes, what's comfortable, and what's not. Today's teens have a broad swath of values, roles and activities -- legal and illegal -- to choose from. Having a list stereotype that points you towards some things and away from others can be very helpful. Social Standing Some cliques are more popular than others.
Select basic ads. Create a personalised ads profile. Select personalised ads. Apply market research to generate audience insights. Measure content performance. Develop and improve products. List of Partners vendors. When people think of cliques , they often assume that they are comprised of the popular kids at school. But cliques exist on every level of the social ladder. To outsiders, the group looks like a cross-section of friends that enjoy time together.
But there are some telltale signs of cliques. For instance, cliques discourage outside friendships, thrive on one person being the decision-maker and are wrought with peer pressure. They also consist of unhealthy friendships and pose some serious dangers to teens.
Here are the top five dangers of cliques. When kids are in a clique, they usually do not socialize outside of their group. They do everything together. From eating lunch together to attending social events, these kids are inseparable. And rarely will they invite someone new to spend time with them. To some people, the group appears like a close-knit group of friends.
They have similar interests and enjoy spending time together. The problems arise when others are not welcome to join or hang out with the group. The expectation is that to belong to the group, friendships are exclusive to the group. If someone in the group does stray from the group, they are quickly ostracized. This excessive togetherness is bad for teens because they are not meeting new people or expanding their sphere of friendships.
Remember, the healthiest kids have friends in different social circles with a variety of different interests.
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